When the Flames Go Up
When the Flames Go Up
Episode 28: "When we get married, we often don't have an agreement on what love is."
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Episode 28: "When we get married, we often don't have an agreement on what love is."

Cuffing Season may start in October, but Uncuffing Season starts Christmas Day. Divorce coach Kate Anthony helps people decide whether to leave a marriage, and prepare what to do if the answer is Yes.

There’s a reason why family advisors—therapists, coaches, lawyers, and such—refer to January as Divorce Month. The holidays can be joyful, but they also represent the end of another cycle, a gauntlet just to get through and then consider if you want to go through another cycle with your spouse.

That’s why certified divorce coach Kate Anthony’s new book, The D-Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage becomes available on December 26. The holidays may be over, but for some the thinking over potentially life-changing decisions is just beginning.

Along with her extensive training, Kate brings the experience of her own divorce and her renewed friendship with her ex-husband into her practice, where she helps women identify emotional and/or financial abuse and advises how to respond. She also outlines the events and emotions to expect (or are not expectable), so you can approach divorce with a clear head and some “No Shit, Sherlock” friends.

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We also talk about how to put your needs first so you can pursue them from a stable place, building proper boundaries, coping with mental illness and codependence, and why the D in “D-Word” can stand for a lot of things—even dismemberment!

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When the Flames Go Up
When the Flames Go Up
After we divorced, we started a blog about co-parenting to learn how to work together until our kids were grown. And now that they are, and the world is so busy disrupting and disavowing what we thought we were working for, we're looking to our community to help us all keep up.