When the Flames Go Up
When the Flames Go Up
Episode 38: "It's just a man, a cat, and two guest bedrooms."
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Episode 38: "It's just a man, a cat, and two guest bedrooms."

Now living alone for the first time since Reagan was president, Doug is feeling the weird energy while the Excitement and the Nostalgia fight it out.

After a week off, we’ve got a lot of ground to cover. But the standard conversational deviations into The Price Is Right, Rush lyrics, and why ADHD affects your ankle bones serve a subtle purpose as therapy for Doug, who is living alone—like alone-alone, not the-kids-will-be-back-next-week alone—for the first time since 1987.

Empty nesting can feel different for single people, especially when your family and best friends are all hundreds of miles away. When the nostalgia and excitement collide, the energy of the impact can launch a spate of “grief cleaning,” when you jettison a lot of stuff and rearrange whatever’s left.

Ultimately, a lot of our success as 50-plus-year-olds stems from our ability to handle change, which seems to come at us with more substance and less warning than before. It’s usually easier said than done, especially while you’re sifting through the artifacts of a formerly all-consuming way of life that is well and rightly over.

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We also tackle several important questions of our time: Is there such a thing as a free market? Is 50 a good age to start an undergraduate education? And are the benefits of yoga enough to offset all the farting?

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When the Flames Go Up
When the Flames Go Up
After we divorced, we started a blog about co-parenting to learn how to work together until our kids were grown. And now that they are, and the world is so busy disrupting and disavowing what we thought we were working for, we're looking to our community to help us all keep up.